Should I go to my ex’s wedding?
Question: I’VE BEEN invited to my ex-husband’s wedding and I am not sure whether to go. I have three grown-up sons who have all said they would like to attend.
If I turn down the invitation does it look rude? My husband and I split up long before he met his wife-to-be so it’s not that I don’t like her.
I just feel funny about watching my ex walk up the aisle with someone else. Should I stop being so silly and go along to support my sons or would it be OK to give it a miss?
Annabel, 61, Carlisle
Answer:
I don't think you should go to your ex-husband’s wedding unless you want to.
What’s worse than feeling uncomfortable at a wedding and what’s more of a pain for everybody than having to deal with an uncomfortable guest?
What’s all this about supporting your adult sons? Why on earth would they need support? In any case what sort of support would you be?
Lots of people go to their ex-spouses’ weddings but it shouldn’t be out of duty. Where is the duty? You should only do it if you have a proper, continuing positive relationship with your ex and you would enjoy yourself.
You have been invited but that doesn’t mean you have to go. Go shopping instead.